Tina Said:

is it too late to change my life and achieve my goals ? am i living in fantasy land ?

We Answered:

How about looking at some online computer courses or if u speak another language maybe you can teach it or be a translator for documents on the PC at home?

After 2 terrible breakdowns and 13 years of crap and anxiety i'm starting again with a small business and i'm 40.

You can do it just like me, start from scratch cos there is really only one way to go now and that's up up up.

Also mate put some pressure on the local mental health unit for more support for therapy etc

U gotta keep asking or they forget you.

Laura Said:

my friends seemed to have been influenced away , how do i react ?

We Answered:

Maybe you shouldn't react. Maybe you should just respond, instead. Reaction is like a reflexive movement over which you have no conscious control, but response is a reflection of consideration and intellect, not to mention maturity. Whereas reaction is by nature impulsive and immediate, there is reason and a graceful pause in response. The preference for response in a situation emerges from its superior results in most social settings. You may be more successful communicating with others if you give them and yourself a little more slack, and it could help with the paranoia, too. Persevere and be patient with everyone, including yourself.

Timothy Said:

does anyone think my life is too much of a nightmare?

We Answered:

Never forget that life is so precious appreciate every moment


Self-esteem is all about how much we feel valued, loved, accepted, and thought well of by others — and how much we value, love, and accept ourselves. Over time, listening to a negative inner voice can harm a person's self-esteem just as much as if the criticism were coming from another person. Some people get so used to their inner critic being there that they don't even notice when they're putting themselves down.

(If you want to improve your self-esteem, here are some steps to start empowering yourself:)

Try to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself. If you're used to focusing on your shortcomings, start thinking about positive aspects of yourself that outweigh them. When you catch yourself being too critical, counter it by saying something positive about yourself. Each day, write down three things about yourself that make you happy.

View mistakes as learning opportunities. Accept that you will make mistakes because everyone does. Mistakes are part of learning. Remind yourself that a person's talents are constantly developing, and everyone excels at different things — it's what makes people interesting.

Recognise what you can change and what you can't. If you realise that you're unhappy with something about yourself that you can change, then start today. If it's something you can't change (like your height), then start to work toward loving yourself the way you are.

Set goals. Think about what you'd like to accomplish, then make a plan for how to do it. Stick with your plan and keep track of your progress.

Make a contribution. volunteer your time in some other way. Feeling like you're making a difference and that your help is valued can do wonders to improve self-esteem.

Exercise! You'll relieve stress, and be healthier and happier.
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It's never too late to build healthy, positive self-esteem. Self-esteem plays a role in almost everything you do. People with high self-esteem do better in school and find it easier to make friends. They tend to have better relationships with peers and adults, feel happier, find it easier to deal with mistakes, disappointments, and failures, and are more likely to stick with something until they succeed. It takes some work, but it's a skill you'll have for life.

Wish you luck !!!!!!!!

Never forget that life is so precious live life to the full appreciate every moment. Put your hole heart in to everything you do.


Merry Christmas & New Year!

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Billy Said:

how do i face the fear of rejection and being rejected?

We Answered:

You may just need some practice in relating to people. Can you take some school classes? That's a good way to meet people and learn something at the same time. Take a computer class.
I can relate to your circumstances. I was orphaned before I was two, and then I was adopted by abusive people who hit me a lot. I also have abandonment issues, but they're not as bad now as they used to be. I was almost killed at work in the oil field when I was twenty-eight, and I haven't worked much since then. I was crushed by a piece of drill rig equipment that weighed almost two tons. That really pissed me off, and it took years to get over it.
Don't feel alone. You're not.

Todd Said:

how do i survive this stage of my life : extreme loneliness & wanting a life too far out of reach?

We Answered:

yes you do need to find god but it wont be in a flash it will be over time so lets leave that for now
your at the turning point now as you have looked back over your life and realise that what you have done has got you nowhere
but most important thing is,all is not lost,with your experience which you have alot of you can now turn all the bad things into good things
you could really help other people after you have helped yourself first
it will be a slow process but another good thing you have done is youve got a dream,a goal something to work to and trust me when i say dreams are not impossible but you have to make them come true they wont just happen.we are sort of similar but you have done alot more than me which means you can be of more use than me.
i think your next step is to find out why you did what you did and realise how events in your life have shaped you to be who you are today.
its not going to be easy so forget the thought completly its going to be hard but when you know what your doing it for your will power will get stronger and stronger
the only way forward for you is to do good in the world
all the above are easy with god by your side but if thats not for you he will still guide you
contact me anytime if you wana talk more il be glad to help you

Darrell Said:

what is the deep fear of being isolated and alone & no one being there for you ? how do you face it?

We Answered:

It sounds like you have gone through a lot and have survived it, and it also sounds like you are getting the courage you need to start achieving some goals now. Start out small. Go to places like the library or anyplace where you will meet people you have something in common with that isn't too overwhelming. Then take some courses, on campus if you are up to it or online if you're not. Then see about learning some social skills. You're right that if you appear too needy, you will chase people off. No one wants someone desperate, except God. He is the one you should put your trust in. Once you are secure in him, then you can get to know people without feeling so desperate. You're also right that your mum won't be there forever, but that doesn't mean you will fall apart. You have value and if you make up your mind to do the most you can with your life, you can still attain your goals. I was much like you when I was young, but I turned to God with my fears and loneliness and my life is now an exciting adventure every day with God. I had no skills or confidence either, but am now almost done with college and looking forward to each day. God bless you.