Cheryl Said:

my life is over - what do you think?

We Answered:

Yes, you have problems, but everyone else has just as many - just different kinds. And, if your asking for advice, don't block someone just because they didn't give you an answer that you wanted. Maybe that's your underlying problem, you won't take anyone's advice. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. At least you have a roof over your head and food.

Philip Said:

what do you do if you want to be independant & go your own way but you've been dependant half your life ?

We Answered:

I hate to break it to ya dude, but you just have to get out there. Be quiet and listen to people around you. you can't learn to be social by avoiding social situations. You have to work out, clean yourself up and really turn the page on your own life. it sucks, it really really sucks, but it can be done.

Thomas Said:

What are my options in this employment situation?

We Answered:

As difficult as it may seem, your best bet would be to listen to your lawyer, as I don't think there are any other options

Bernice Said:

at this stage of my life , what can i do with my time to move nearer to my ambition - the life i want?

We Answered:

A person with as many issues as you have mentioned has them because for some reason he has difficulty accepting and believing in help from others. His faith in people and his ability to trust others has been damaged or shattered. He has to turn within himself to find renewed strength in order to live well.

I would have you simply do what I did when I saw that alcohol was killing me... I would have you focus on one thing within yourself which is positive and stay with it. Let it become your strength to sort out the other things which bother you. Look within yourself and you will find it.

As to general anesthesia, when I had groin surgery they gave me a blue pill and In about twenty minutes I could care less how it went. It calmed me right down. The operation went very well and was successful. Hospitals have ways to help you with your fear and concern.

What you are looking at is a routine, minor surgery and not life-threatening. It is short, direct and very restorative to your overall health. You will be able to walk again the way you used to, one less thing that will be of concern to you. You will be so relieved to have the use of your foot back, plus you will get a generous compliment of your old, good energy back from having had it done, you will be on cloud nine for awhile, with a sense of psychological relief. You may believe me on that one. It's true. You will make the connection between facing your fears and the joy that comes when it is all behind you. This also tremendously boosts your self-esteem.

I say, face into it, and as a paramedic once told me about getting my learner's permit to learn to drive a car, "All you have to do is show up." The rest is all taken care of, including you.

I hope you begin to see how my mind deals with difficult things. I always latch on (after a lot of angst and upset and worrying, just like you) to the most positive thing I can find, and it enables me to ride the wave right over whatever was upsetting me. It helps me find forward motion to ge through whatever it is and put it behind me. Yes...

Look for that positive thing and when you find it, grab onto it with everything you have inside you, and do not let go. It will help you sort out the rest of your concerns, as well. You can keep coming back to it as part of your core energy. It will be something in your centre which is solid and dependable.

Debra Said:

this is extremely depressing - how can i possibly get over it?

We Answered:

9 times out of 10 what people write on websites like Friends Reunited is bull anyway. Of course they aren't going to go on there and admit to being unhappy / having problems. I bet they aren't as happy as they appear. That's why you have to take things like FR and facebook with a pinch of salt.

Have you tried counselling, or getting a hobby to help you meet new people?

The idea of Spain seems a good one. A new start could help. Moving away to a new place and meeting new people could be just what you need.

Good luck :)