Andrea Said:

how do you build relationships with people with no self esteem?

We Answered:

Changing your way of thinking is where you have to start. People do not define who you are, you define who you are. Basing your life on what people think of you is tearing your self esteem apart. Internet friends come and go. People may not sign in because, they are bored with the site, their life outside of the Internet keeps them busy, computer is broken, etc... There is always a reason. I am not a people person and I enjoy my time alone.

I know of a great place you can go with great, supportive people, people who even have the same traumas that you have, and very friendly.

http://dailystrength.org/

Stay strong.

Alvin Said:

How do you build relationships with people with no self esteem?

We Answered:

you see a dead end i see breakthrough.
you are frustrated enough to change, FINALLY.
your problem is not your relationships with others but with your self.
that is what you need to work. building up your self worth in your own head not through feed back from others which will fluctuates according to situation.
this your life you are the voice. and you are in control.

the rs two stages to change:

-the Absolute frustration.
- the determination to change.

i can tell you are still at stage one, so even if someone would hand you the key to your happiness you would not know how to use it.

once you are calm down,and clear your head.

than you WILL see your way.
someone wise Tools me,once the student is ready the teacher will come.

you are already asking for help cos you are about to find a way ,and you are now
living your phase of , cos the will be your leverage to change maximizes it .

take care

Tracey Said:

iam in limbo about where to go, what to do with my life at this stage?

We Answered:

Probably some (or most) of your tragic circumstances were not your fault. Probably, you were just doing the best you could when you consider the circumstances!

It sounds like you made some mistakes when you were younger. Is anyone going to hold that against you? NO! You were just a kid. What were you supposed to do?

It sounds like you're mature now. The mature thing to do is to give yourself a break and forgive the past. A lot of things were beyond your control in the past, but now they're not.

It's unfortunate, you'll just have to pick up some pieces. I've done that myself. It is what it is, but it has to be done. So you slowly progress toward your goals. That's all.

Let's talk about your goals. What are you good at? What do you like? Work toward getting yourself into a position where you can use your strengths and be interested at the same time. It doesn't have to happen over night.

Let's talk about low self-worth. You've had a lot to deal with. People have probably blamed you for things you couldn't control. You're probably very worried about being judged by others. That's still going to happen, but it happens to everyone :)

But who are you, really? Aren't you a nice person? Aren't you fairly smart? For heaven's sake you've made it this far! You have plenty of redeeming qualities and you know it! ;-) When someone rejects you, you don't really know if it's all about you - or more likely all about them.

Rejection man! Who does that?? What, are we in highschool? When you get rejected consider yourself fortunate! A person who does that to another person is very emotionally immature. You'll be just fine without them! I promise.

From everything you've said, I don't see anything colossally wrong with you. I think you're good people. I think you're incredibly strong. A lot of people at 31 after living through what you have would have completely given up. But you, on the other hand, seem interested in doing the right thing and making a life for yourself.

That's all it takes. Are you *willing* to be a happy, healthy, well-adjusted person? If you are, I'd say you're well on your way. Give yourself some time to go through this process. Don't pressure yourself too much, and remember to notice all the things you do that are GOOD.

You're going to be fine. I just know it.