Cassandra Said:

Am I in the wrong here? (concerning abuse)?

We Answered:

look i realize your mother is dying, but this doesn't give her a get out of jail free card.... every incident call the police, report it, more than likely they will want to institutionalize her for her mental instability, and most of all you can't feel guilty about this, and yes you need counseling to deal with what she has already put you through. I am truly sorry for what you have had to experience, and I hope that with time your emotional wounds will heal.

Seth Said:

Can this be considered abuse?

We Answered:

Had you ever considered that you may of deserved it?

Joanne Said:

Is my mother abusive?

We Answered:

What doesn't kill you, will only make you stronger! There are no words in life more true than those. That phrase has shaped my life into what it is today. I too went through an EXTREMELY abusive childhood. I would almost think we were raised under the same roof. In the early years, it was mostly physical abuse. My mother and father would beat us children with nearly anything in sight. The belt would've been a welcomed sight somedays. Often it was the nearest clothes hanger, extension cord, cast-iron frying pan, vacuum attachment, etc...But as the years grew on, the physical abuse slowly changed into the mental abuse. To be honest, I would much rather deal with the physical beatings than the mind games. Putting a shoe out of place, taking something out of the refrigerator without permission, or sometimes just standing in the wrong place at the wrong time would set them off. I gave up asking or trying to understand why they acted as dilusional as they did, and just eventually accepted my TEMPORARY misfortune. For I knew, one day I would remove myself from such a Hell-hole. I don't know if it's worth sitting down with your mother and asking what sends her into these rages. To be more precise, ask her what was so wrong with dropping an egg? If she can't reason with you and give you a conscious answer, then she needs to seek therapy. Not you. Maybe together? But not you alone. Is it worth it? Why even bother at all? In a couple of years, you'll be able to rid yourself of this person with no remorse. Is it worth it to you to try and salvage this relationship? Only you can answer that because it is your mother. Personally, I haven't spoken to mine in years. My life has moved on and I don't think it's been any less fulfilling otherwise. I always felt that I don't need negative people in my life. Life's short enough as it is. Don't let others discourage you and lay a guilt trip on you because of her cancer. She had a chance to make the best of her life, and that is the path that she chose. Now, it's your time to choose. It is your choice and yours alone. I wish the best for you.

Allan Said:

Could I be suffering abuse?

We Answered:

Daaaaamn girl, use the enter button. Paragraphs are your friend.

First, your mom sounds like the meds are making her crazy, as most meds do. They make people act differently and irrationally. If everybody smoked weed than this wouldn't happen.

Second, if anybody ever holds a knife to your throat then that is abuse, or assault with a deadly weapon if you get into the law of things.

Don't take that abuse. You are nature. You are karma. Take your life into your own hands and do something about it. Threaten to call CPS (Child Protective Services) and if she pulls that stunt again then call them. Don't be afraid. Don't let anybody control you by using fear as a tactic. That is what power hungry people do and you have to "Get up, stand up, stand up for your right".

You deserve better than emotional abuse. No matter how bad you were, mental and physical abuse is just plain wrong. Don't get me wrong, disciplining your kids is one thing, but beating them and scarring them for life is bullsh*t.

Here is a quote for you:

"You must make your own rules, or else others will make them for you"

Rhonda Said:

Is my mother abusive?

We Answered:

as long as you and your father put up with her behaviors, then you enable her and are as responsible for them as she. I suggest you report her behaviors to CPS and have her evaluated by a mental health professional, your father can have her commited for evaluation for 72 hours and a psychiatrist can commit her for as long as it takes if he finds her a danger to herself or others. If you don't take action, then you have only yourselves to blame for the damage she does.