Andrea Said:

When should a person start physical therapy and mobilize his elbow after elbow dislocation/fracture ?

We Answered:

When your doc and physical therapist say you should!

Working that arm too soon or too late can be equally damaging to its future strength and mobility. Let the pros tell you when it's okay!

Willie Said:

I need to know if I should stay in my marriage or leave?

We Answered:

Well, I can't see how it can be a mistake to want desperately to save your marriage.
What must motivate you though, is to know for a fact that by choosing your husband, you are not putting your children at risk.
If there is any doubt about it, then obviously getting away is your only option.
But, well, it's great that help was made available for you, still if your marriage can be saved, the help can benefit someone else. It's not like the flat will be destroyed.
Besides, it would have made you aware that if necessary help is there. Ok, it may not be easy an other time round, but surely, you won't give up on your marriage and possible happiness with a man you do love and who loves you by just leaving.
Anyway, if you can't make sure he won't try to sort himself out, then you could always take the flat as a motivation for him to do so.
So, you can tell him that, you need to see some actions and that words won't do the trick this time.
So, that might actually help as well.
By moving out, you open more prospects for yourself too. You show your husband that you mean what you say, and then he'll have to sort himself out.
Good luck babe, and don't feel bad for wanting to save your marriage, specially when you love your husband and have children with him.
But for now, it's true that you need to make sure that those children are a priority.xxx

Dustin Said:

When should a person start physical therapy and mobilize his elbow after elbow dislocation/fracture ?

We Answered:

Only your doctor would know for sure. Consult with your doctor.

Daryl Said:

Do you have recovery tips for people walking away from an NPD family?

We Answered:

I have a solution, but it's not an easy or possibly real one. . .RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!!!!!!!!!! NPD folks are horrible people. They will not change, therapy rarely works because they, of course, think they are smarter and better than the therapist. Def. try to get some help for yourself and your husband to find out why you seek out and possibly enable these kinds of people. (((HUGS)))

Corey Said:

Need ideas on how to cope with a Narcissist Mother?

We Answered:

Oh boy you do have it rough. I guess my best advice, based on a similar dysfunctional family, is to face the facts. Firstly, you can't change them, They are and always will be the same and they will continue to hurt you. They can't help it, they don't know they are doing it. Secondly, find it in your heart to finally forgive them for their bad parenting and personal problems that have caused you such pain.
Thirdly, take responsibility for your own emotions. By that I mean you need to expect them to say the wrong thing and so not be surprised or hurt by it. Start to live your live for yourself. Tolerate them because they do love you and I am sure they also love you. You can't spend your life being angry or upset at what your parents ARE NOT. They do the best they can with the emotional problems that they still have. But you are not responsible for either their behavior or to try and fix them. In fact, by the time you realize how dysfunctional your family was, it was already too late to change it. Love and forgive them for their weakness, then be strong and live in the present. When you visit them, plan it well. Short visits, time with friends and resist them temptation to let them GET TO YOU.
My Dad spent his entire life with one foot in his mouth and had no idea how much pain he caused his own kids and grandchildren. I believe that being honest about how you feel and confronting your parents is useless. There is no nobility in telling the truth if all it will cause is more pain or problems.
Good luck