Debra Said:

How can I stop myself from hating him?

We Answered:

Well, at least you sound like someone who wants to forgive the person who had hurt you, and at least you're wise enough to think you don't have to depend on anti-depressants for happiness. For that I'm really glad for you...

You need to talk to your cousin "John". Make sure it's a one on one kind of talk and that he isn't with anyone else, he isn't busy or preoccupied or anything. You said that when you talked to your cousin that time when you told you to "stay out of his life" he was with a friend. He might have been acting out in front of his friend by acting like an a$$ and losing the whole "nerdy guy" persona.

Just simply walk up to him and say "Hey, you doin' anything?" or "You busy? Mind if I hang out too?" or something of the like that you would normally say. This is your FIRST clue of his thoughts for you. If he lets you hang out, he still thinks you're okay. If he gives you attitude, for no apparent reason (even if he looks like he's not busy but says that he is) then he's probably just a jerk after all.

Have a normal conversation if he lets you stay- say something random or the first thing that pops into your head - talk about anything EXCEPT that incident! Yes, you can even do the whole "weather looks kinda good today" kinda talk, but it has to be something to get him to respond to you naturally. If he's still acts like the cousin you've always known and respected to be, then he's still that guy.

Better yet, tell him about how you've been feeling this whole time. Something like "You were a real jerk to me last year, but that was then and this is now, so I forgive you for acting the way you did then." or something of the like. After that just leave. He might take it as an offence and say something like "Me acting like a jerk? You were the one butting around" or something of the sort. Remember, you're there to forgive, not to fight.

After that, just leave it at that. However he reacts around you is now completely up to him, but this time he's aware of how you feel (at least, depending on how much you tell him about your feelings).

Also, make sure that everything you even say to him is the truth, and if you say you forgive him you have to mean it. Otherwise it would just eat away from you at the heart and the nightmares will only get worse.

It's okay to be angry at someone, but it's not okay to keep that anger inside of you for a long time. Express it. Let someone know about it, especially the one you're angry at. Otherwise, that anger will express itself through you in other ways (e.g. declining health, nightmares, etc.).

I hope you find the answer that you're looking for.

Ann Said:

How could I make this resume look good/better?

We Answered:

put it in sections.. ill do an example for you


[First Last name] [Fone number] [email]

headline: I am a very motivated and goal orriented person who will give 110% at everything put infront of me.

(Education)
Name of High school in bold
years attended
ged or diploma?

Name of College if attended
years attended
degrees

(Work Experience)
[Company name]
start and end date
-Duties performed
-Duties performed
-Duties performed

[Company name]
start and end date
-Duties performed
-Duties performed
-Duties performed


(Community service)
[Company name]
start and end date
-Duties performed


(Refferences)
-First and Last name
Phone number
-First and Last name
Phone number