Leslie Said:

Loneliness, therapy and side-effects?

We Answered:

Daniel,

You are not a loser. You sound depressed. Losing your hearing and feeling lonely does not make you a loser. Nothing does. God doesn't make mistakes. You do have a purpose.

I once thought the same about myself. I always believed I would fall in love, get married, and live happily ever after. That didn't happen. I've been married 3 times... and each time I was abandoned when I became pregnant. Each husband wanted children, but "changed their mind" once responsibility was required of them. I thought I was completely alone. I was devastated.

But you know what? I realized I am not unloved at all. God loves me... and I was seeing myself as punished until I noticed that I was actually spared. Those men do not define me. Society does not define me. For each of those horrible experiences, God sent me a precious child. My 3 kids have been such blessings and great comforts. I have been single for over 10 years now, but it doesn't matter. My kids are teenagers and will be finding their own ways soon.... but it doesn't matter... because the love I truly needed as always been with me. Love from God. Eventually I learned to love myself.

I'm not telling you to give up and find contentment. I'm saying that you are very young. There IS someone out there for you. I still believe there's someone for me. I'm 41. But I'm in no hurry... because I know the right person will come when they are supposed to. Until then, I'm happy with me. Once you relax and come to terms with that, you will find happiness. You have to do this first. How can you give yourself to someone, when you haven't really discovered how to love yourself?

Your hearing has nothing to do with it. My first crush was a deaf boy that lived down the street.

Please please please seek counseling for depression first. You may very well have a chemical imbalance that is magnifying the problem. Then you can work on being who you want to be. The best way I've learned is to look in the mirror and see the beauty God created in you. Then imagine yourself the way you want to be. Start taking steps to live that way. Gradually, day by day... you will grow into that very person. I promise.

God bless!

p.s. It's not about strong and independent. It's about being yourself and happy with who you are. That kind of confidence is what women like. If a woman "wants something", she's not worth your time.

Kathleen Said:

Do these things ever happen to you?

We Answered:

What this sounds like to me is something called Borderline Personality Disorder. The reason why I say this is that I myself suffer from BPD. Here's a link that I hope can help you: www.bpdworld.org I hope that this information helps you out. Take care of yourself and see your doctor about your symptoms.

Derrick Said:

question about my daughter and school..?

We Answered:

Go with your gut. You know your daughter best. I did and am Glad I did so. My sons both have gone to pre-schools when they were 3 - 5. Its normal for them to take time to get used to their new environments and routines, they are different than whats at home. Both my son's receive speech therapy. My oldest who is in 1st grade also gets OT (Occupational Therapy) - he still likes to move around,and he's in the 1st Grade and doesn't have ADD, he also gets reading help and math help (doesn't need it), he's just a number for more financial aid for the school. Due to his need for Speech Therapy, OT, and PT (doesn't need this either) they pushed me really hard to hold him back from kindergarten and have him go to Bright Beginnings at age 6 and then start kindergarten at age 7 I was against it and they are actually glad that i didn't listen to them. Although he is working on specific skills, he's not the only kid in his class that cannot do them. I had a birthday party for him at the roller rink and only 1 out 7 kids could tie their skates and she was in the 2nd grade. So do what you think is best for your daughter and don't let them push you around and scare you into thinking there is something wrong with your child.

Dwayne Said:

Should we still be friends? Please i need help ASAP!?

We Answered:

Oh, man! I took me like ages to read that.

option 1. It depends, if you are a b**** you would just dump her and be competition.

option 2. If you care you will get back to her because accidents happen in friendship.

(the right option is option 2. well...at least the decent ppl will choose that option..)

Mabel Said:

whats the word to describe a person who is loud, high energy...?

We Answered:

intensive or overbearing

Timothy Said:

my son has communication disorder and yet he speaks freely to mirrors?

We Answered:

I would speak to his professional about it, but in my opinion he may just be a shy kid. This is probably his way of 'practicing' to speak- I hear my 18 month old niece speaking to herself all the time. A five year old has more social awareness, that's why he stops when you join in- he may be a little embarrassed. I would think of it as a positive that he IS able to communicate.

Good luck!

Jason Said:

Will I spend the rest of my life alone?

We Answered:

I think you need therapy to deal with some of your low self-esteem issues.

In order ot receive love ? You really have to love yourself.

So, work on that and the love will come.

Peace.