Kristina Said:

Am I doing the right thing by leaving my boyfriend : ( ?

We Answered:

i think your whole "reason" for leaving is a cop out...

you love him? but you are going to leave him instead of looking at yourself and saying "i can be better"...then making better choices...well that is the cop out....

it's because he is a workaholic and doesn't pay attention to you that you act out? are you an adult? can you make choices based on what's good for you? he has no control over choices you make..good or bad..

if you want to leave because something is "missing", then leave him...but to go through such dramatic "oh poor me" motions..to say "i love you, but i don't want to be with you because you make me a bad person"...that is crap...

no relationship is perfect...it is what the two people involved make it...period....there is no white knight to rescue fair damsels... there is no fairy tale endings....only what we choose to make for ourselves...

Debbie Said:

Getting divorced and deadbeat ex starting to fight for custody of disabled child...help?

We Answered:

Gather as much evidence as you can. Have his doctors and therapist write letters detailing any testing your son has had, an what exactly his condition is, how it effects his life, an his short & long term prognosis. Have them also include that the dad has never even inquired to them about his son, nor has he went to any appointments etc.
You can have friends and family do the same thing.
When you go to court, take a copy of the restraining order with you as well.

It does sound like this guy is a real piece of work. I personally know all too well how men can behave. I used to volunteer at a sexual abuse center. Men rape and dominate women, not because of sex aspect, it is a power trip.

If he contacts you at all, call the police. It is a violation of the restraining order. Even if it is a letter, email or text. NO contact means no contact.

You as the child's mom, did absolutely the right thing. You cannot bring a child up in that environment. You have a disabled child, who needs a calm loving environment. Not a nut job of a dad who goes off the deep end. Even if he does have PTSD, your first priority is to your son, not him. It is one thing to support a spouse who actually acknowledges they have a problem and seek help..it is another thing to stay with someone who is unstable an refuses help.

Oh an you are absolutely correct. You can not have him committed for hitting you. He has to be a threat to himself, or threatening to kill someone else. Unfortunately being violent won't get him committed. If that is all it took, we would have mental hospitals bursting at the seams.

Hang in there. An under no circumstances listen to people who put you down for doing what any decent parent would do..which is support an protect your child.


Just as a last comment. When I threatened to take my ex back to court (had already taken him many times for failure to pay) he threatened to kill me if I did so. Unfortunately for him I recorded the conversation, an there is now a warrant out for his arrest in the state I used to live in.

Donna

Allison Said:

can mom take kids out of state w/o dads permission?

We Answered:

Go to family court. Unless specified, she has to have court permission to remove minor children from the jurisdiction. Especially when there is visitation outlined in the court order already. Taxes have nothing to do with it. She gotta file a motion with TX to amend the original order. It really does not matter if he's in arrears, either. Absent a warrant against him, his rights as a father to see his kids still stand. GOOD LUCK!

Anita Said:

Can a Texas school district prevent me from sending my autistic son to his private therapies?

We Answered:

That's bull - they're messing around with you and trying to just keep your son in class. They have no grounds to even say that to you! My sister is autistic too and she had to do all of that during elementary school. The school didn't like it but my mom would get a note from the doctor saying she was there and what not. If you have a doctor's note then they legally have no grounds for anything at all. They don't even have any now because your son is under doctor's care and if they try to bring this up to the board of education or a court judge, they'll get laughed out of the place. The most important thing for your son right now is to have those therapies or he'll suffer later. Fight for his right and don't let them push you around. If it comes down to it, enroll him in a nearby school that might be a little more compassionate but make sure you'd explain the situation first. Good luck.